As a teacher i keep thingking and take action to repair my pedagogy to make sure my student can learn more input and information. But i also realise about parents responsible at home. This is because a responsibilities to teaching does not on teachers but also parents. So, in this update i want to share with all parents about their power to raising children with self esteem.
Parents have both power and authority. Of course they have power because they are physically stronger, better at using words to get their way, can control the child’s access to mone, food, mobility, entertainment, psychologically and independence. It is a profoundly unequal relationship and the scope for abuse is vast.
Many of the problems which parents have in keeping an organised and calm home stem. Liberal parents who reject the available tools of parental power can end up throwing out their authority at the same time.
Use a tools of power. Power is a reality of life. The tools of power used by parents includes:-
• Physical – Hitting
Hurting
Damaging belongings
• Verbal – Bribery
Ridicule
Threats
Sarcasm
Shouting
• Emotional – Withdrawal
Witholding food, liberty
Using touch – touch is a very powerful tool, with the potential to either heal or hurt. Although touching is usually done silently, it is also a very powerful way to communicate.Get started with giving touches and not with giving taking or reciprocated touches. Examples of two way giving and taking touches are body embraces, holding hands, walking arm in arm even shaking hands. Examples of one way giving touches include :-
• sitting besides them while they watch tv
• casual body touches as a welcome when you see them after an absence
• sitting next to them in the car,
• sharing a bath if they are of an appropriate age
• sitting or lying on their bed next to them at bedtime
Give time to them – spend time with your children and keep watching about their activities and problems.
Avoid sabotage – example read to them, watch them as they doing it enjoy or is good, do things in parallel so talking is not necessary and nothing is a stake.
Be firm and clear – (friendly and loving)
Tags: child, children, Parent, parenting, self esteem